Friday, April 18, 2014

Time for a Change

It's like having a bad hair day over and over. 

Then you finally book an appointment to get it cut and that day your hair looks great. That's when I start to tell myself, maybe I don't need to get it cut. Look at how good it looks. Is it really a good hair day or is it that your so relieved to be getting it cut? That it just looks better to you?

That's kind of how Chris and I are right now. We have had so many bad days, but once he booked an appointment to go see someone. Things got better. We started to talk to one another, nicer. We worked together doing the budget without that many issues. We were even on the same page with parenting. 

We have gone to the counselor twice. The first appointment, I felt great afterwards. I felt that she really heard what I was saying. I can only speak for myself though. I did tell Chris that at any point he doesn't feel like she is helping him or he doesn't like her we can find someone else to go see. Just because I like her doesn't mean that he does and I want this to work. So I will not see her as a couple if that's what it takes. Now, he didn't say anything about not liking her and he feels the same way I do about this. 

So.... we did have fights that week. He was working on a Sunday! When his job is closed. He wouldn't even known about the call if he didn't have his work cell phone on. AND well we got into a fight over him spending 1.06. Well at least we had things to talk about for this last week!! 

She gave us a couple of things to work on. She even wants us to plan a night that he gets off work on time and then do something, together, as a couple. What is that even look like anymore? 

Chris picked Friday night, as in tonight to be off on time. Our big plans you ask? Getting stuff for Easter and then then ice cream. No it's not a weekend in warm weather. It's not even a night in the city. BUT what it is, is a start. A start to getting to know each other again. A start to being able to trust him again. I am so looking forward to this I can not even tell you. 


Sunday, April 6, 2014

We Are Back on the Diet

The Financial Peace diet. 

This time around though Chris is with me. We have missed one of the weeks due to us fighting. That's ok. We can always go online and watch it. I am the Nerd, he is the Free Spirit, and oh boy is he ever!!! I do the budget and everything has been ok. I have missed a few things each time and I have to re-do it. Then I get crabby but he has been right there with me. Telling me I can do it. I normally tell him at that point that he is sucking up so he doesn't have to do it. I got this weeks budget done last night and we went through it this morning. We did have to change a few things around. (GRRR!! There is always something!) Totally my fault this time, I want Avery's spring pictures. So that wasn't something we knew about until I got them in her cubbie on Friday. Surprise!! 

Well we went through the rest of the bills and talked about planning a week worth of meals. This has been a big fight for us for many many years. This time I promised him that I found something that was going to make it so much easier for us. The blog that I found, "themed" everyday of the week. You have to check it out. Chris was excited, yes you didn't read that wrong. Well, OK, he was as excited as he could be about picking themes and planning meals. LOL. 

So off to Walmart we went, together, on a Saturday. Yes I know we are insane. Everything was good until I forgot the list. Although I did write it twice, once to get all the ingredients, and second to get everything in order of the aisles. (so many I am the only one that's insane?) Whitney was able to take a picture of it and save my booty, I mean send it to Chris. It didn't take as long as I thought to get everything we needed. Also there was only a couple of people that I wanted to ram with the cart. 

Once we got to the check out though, Chris turned into a three year old child.
Chris, "Can I get a drink?"
Me, "No"
Chris, "But I need something"
Me, "No, that one bottle is half the price of a 12 pack. I would rather you go get a 12 pack." 

*Off Ramp Warning*
 I have to say, shopping for us is hard. Both of us hate going and doing it together I am surprised we made it to check out. ;)
Also we had already reached are week allowance for food.
So there was no way buying pop was going to happen.

Chris,"Can I get a candy bar then?"
Me, "No."
Chris, "But I am hungry."
Me, "So am I. Although I know I didn't burn as many calories as you did today, but still. Suck it up!"
I don't think that he said anything else after that. ;)
This whole process is hard but it's teaching us we don't need all of those over processed snacks and pop. We have the money for what we need, not what we want. 

The end of this story is we need to have more family time. What are we going to be getting with using a budget? Family time. It's starting at the dinner table. There is even a night that Whitney can cook. This week it's only putting frozen pizzas in the oven but it's a start!!

Friday, April 4, 2014

Online Class

So I have started taking a class online, for the first time ever. 

I thought that this would be a good idea. I don't know now. I have not been in a "class" well for a lot of years. We do not need to get into numbers here people. I have been reading and of course they are asking you questions like if you do this, then maybe you shouldn't be in this class, sort of thing. Or you should really have this in place before you think you can ever do it professionally. So I have really been thinking, what was I thinking?? I got through the first lesson. I did the assignment and then the quiz. I keep checking back to see if it's been graded yet. (It hasn't been) I have moved onto the second lesson and have even completed those assignments and quiz. AND I am still waiting....I keep thinking that I don't want to move onto the next lesson until I have the grades from the other two first. What if I failed everything? What if I can't do anything to bring up my grade? What if I am totally off the mark on how I answered the questions? Would I be able to go back and re-do the assignments? I have to have a final grade of 71 to pass, but who wants that? 


                         still "Under Review"

AUGH!!! Come on, please just grade something! 


Two of the five have been graded!!! I got 25/25 and then 52.5/55. So you are currently reading a blog of an A student!!! Woot Woot!!